BEING SAFETY
This resource is written for, with and by mothers who are (or have been) parenting while subjected to violence and abuse by a co-parenting father.
Being Safety is a reflection resource is designed to:
Acknowledge that all parenting is ‘imperfect’ and involves responsibility, guidance and nurture.
Reveal there is no place for the perpetration of violence and abuse in ‘imperfect parenting/caring’. Violence and abuse limits living, hurts relationships and connections.
Highlight the responses, resistance and resourcefulness involved in parenting when subjected to violence and abuse.
Ask responders to change the status quo, to notice his use of violence and abuse and to hold open more space for safety and living.
Read and share Being Safety
Open and share the Being Safety Poster with static QR code.
EXAMPLES OF INSIGHTS FROM 'BEING SAFETY'
"As a responding friend, family member, neighbour, colleague, formal responder… We need you to know these things…"
"Hold open more space for us. For us to connect. For us to live. Unrestrained. Unsilenced. Unafraid."
"Cliff never respected the parenting orders boundaries, and he made girls break those boundaries too. Whenever the girls were with him, he did not allow them to contact me and if they did call me, they had to do it secretly. The girls and I had developed an emoji system that they could send me if they needed me. Otherwise, when they were with Cliff, I just accepted that I would not have contact with them. But when the girls were with me in my home, Cliff expected that he could have as much access to them, via the phone and internet as he wanted."
[Nicole | Voices of Insight]